Regaining Self-esteem After A Breakup

Self-esteem can be seriously affected by a breakup. Because of this, it is important to know strategies to rebuild them. Today we have some recommendations for you. 

The end of a relationship, for whatever reason, is always painful. We have therefore put together some recommendations for you to rebuild self-esteem in this difficult situation .

If the relationship has been long or toxic, or if both of you haven’t tried to end, then your self-esteem and confidence will most likely suffer from this difficult situation. After the breakup, you need time to overcome it and to be able to concentrate on yourself and your life again.

Rebuilding self-esteem after a breakup 

In psychology, self-esteem is defined  as the appreciation of oneself. This includes all perceptions, thoughts and evaluations that we are continuously exposed to. Studies show that: 

When our self-esteem is weakened, it is difficult for us to find  emotional balance because the first step is to accept ourselves for who we are. 

How do you know if a breakup has affected your self-esteem?

When a relationship comes to an end, it is usually a very difficult time emotionally. But this does not mean that the meaning of life is lost with it. Of course, it also plays an important role whether it is just a relationship crisis or whether a definitive separation is imminent.

If the latter is the case,  understand that all the love you need resides in yourself,  even if we mostly seek it in others. But this is one of the biggest mistakes we can make after a breakup.

Doctor Jill Weber points out  that after a breakup, it’s normal to feel confusion, sadness, or the desire to cry. But when a relationship comes to an end, there is no place in tormenting yourself with guilt. Because we have all experienced similar circumstances that do not define us.

On the contrary: Even if the once loved person is no longer there,  life goes on and we have to learn to go our own way and develop personally. If you recognize yourself in these words, then the breakup is affecting your life and it is time to make some changes.

Indicates low self-esteem

• The feeling that life no longer makes sense without the person who is no longer there.
• You no longer feel beautiful looking in the mirror and even think that no one will ever fall in love with you again.
• Maybe you believe that the person who left you was the only perfect partner on the whole planet for you.
• This person is a reference point for you and you always make comparisons with all other people you know.
• You no longer care for your appearance adequately.
• In addition, you are no longer motivated and cannot find enthusiasm. Activities that you used to enjoy are no longer of interest to you.
• You feel that the pain does not make you think clearly.

• In addition, you blame yourself for many circumstances and believe that  if you had acted differently, the situation could have been saved. Maybe the person you once loved would still be by your side.

If you can relate to any of these statements, you  need to understand that you can learn to enjoy solitude. You now have the chance to find yourself and you will discover true love in the process.

Steps to Regain Self-Esteem after a Breakup

There is no magic formula for overcoming a breakup. This will need time. Yet you will learn to love yourself and this experience will empower you and make you a better person. The following recommendations  can help you: 

• Let your feelings run free and experience the grief phase after the breakup without suppressing it. Share yourself with someone you trust and accept your feelings instead of hiding them.
• Do not try to escape, live the situation  because this is the best way to be born again through your wounds. After this process, you will be the only leading actress in your life.
• You will then realize that your life does not depend on this person and that it is not all about them. Two people, two worlds and everyone can decide for themselves what they like and exploit their own potential. 

• Create new routines to break old habits that shaped your life with your former partner.
• Begin the search within yourself. Your happiness is in yourself, not in someone else’s life. Nourish this healthy love for yourself because it is essential to realizing and appreciating your worth, to understanding why it is not worthwhile to be with someone who does not love you.
• Avoid wearing yourself down by thinking about this person all the time and asking yourself questions about what happened. It is good to cry yourself out, but after that you need to focus your attention on yourself and your own path.
• Pamper yourself, love yourself and take care of your appearance. Look in the mirror and become aware of how beautiful you are, your gaze is in the foreground, not someone else’s eyes.

• You must also maintain your physical and mental health. Get help from a psychologist if you need support and dedicate yourself to all those activities that you have always wanted to do and enjoy.
• Bring positive things into your life  and forget about sentimental or sad music in these moments of your life. You must attract joy now!

If you love and appreciate yourself,  you will become aware that you have facets that you did not know yourself. You can achieve things that you would never have imagined. Because when your self-esteem is healthy, you are the main person in your life and can set your own goals and achieve them.